Saying Sorry

Is it difficult to say 'sorry'?
I've not really found it so. I say sorry often, and I mostly do mean it. Our PM says it.
My husband finds it very difficult. and I come to expect it, perhaps because I find I can say it easily enough.
I realize my helper finds it hard to say as well - when she says it, one senses she is not too happy.
My dad and mum say it easily enough, and I know they mean it, generally. (my mum does say it angrily sometimes!) My brother does notsay it easilty.
interesting to ruminate over this issue - there are situations which, after I've explained thoroughly, still doesn't elict an apology from my husband. Instead he says stupid things that don't mean anything, like, next time I won't do it - which is absolute crap because of course he'll do it again. or he just goes about explaining why he did what he did, believing that to suffice. but nothing, for me at least, works as well as a simple, sincere, I'm sorry. saying I'm sorry takes responsibility for the action that caused some hurt towards another, and that comes to mean something. it provides a means of moving on. everyone makes mistakes. but learning from them, apologizing, all this are part of it
so what do i do when I expect an apology and I don't get it?
I've told him explicity even to apologize. he does for that one instant most ungraciously. doesn't remember to do it the next time
so do I adjust my expectations. don't come to expect an apology? or assume that he is sorry just that he does not know how to express it? (but see, I don't believe he is sorry!)
grr - what does one do?
one thing I could do is to forgive even when the other person has not asked for forgiveness. just be the bigger person and let it go, be the bigger person and forgive for it sets me free. no point trying to win petty points in small arguments. just let it go, wash over - god takes so many injusttices in his stride, without expecting a sorry. I can learn too.
yes this seems to be the best solution for the moment.
Om shanthi shanthi shanthi he.