Reflections on women's roles in the mahabharatha

Limited room within which to manoeuvre
Why should an unwed mother be a source of shame to her family
Why pin that on women
That if they get raped get kids it's shameful for the girl and her family?

Why should a man whose mother had a baby out of wedlock not be given equal privileges

The burden of chastity lies with the girl. Those are accepted as non negotiable. So within those boundaries she must make the best of what she gets.

Kunti. Didn't have kids from hubby anyway. At that point she could have said I have another child born the same way.

And why is chastity associated with purity ? Pure of heart I understand. But chastity = purity. Why?

Women as property.

Belonging to the husband. Lost at dice like money and property. Drupadi.

Kunti again. Screwed from the beginning. So didn't acknowledge karna because of shame that would befall the other 5. Why should that be the case at all?

Then son curses mother to never keep secrets. But she did till the rnd. Is he saying better if she had said that at all?

Plus where is woman's choice in matter concerning their bodies their lives
Draupadi wanted only arjunaforced to sleep with 5 men with renewable virginity

Wanted to think of herself as unchained to useless gambling husband but not accepted.
Given a boon that she will eat only after all the men eat

When she wanted arjuna she had to insult Karna. Otherwise no choices given to her.

You know the more I read religious texts o see a conspiracy across history and religions to subjugate women. It's been a hard upward struggle. But still. I tell myself. These religious texts were written by men in a time when it was societal norms for women to be subjugated. History is written by victors. And religious texts by the powerful genderwise at that time. I mean who had access to education to the ability to read and write then?
It's easy to withold access to education and then say only men are educated and therefore superior. It's a scam. A conspiracy.

So then how to have a relationship with God? Direct. My heart to god. No books to tell me my place in society. Just me and him. Love trust total and complete surrender. I yearn to and strive to do this with god. Not with men. Om shakthi om namashivayam