Sita 's banishment today

Okay you know I can't understand the banishment of sita on account of a single common man's words

A woman's chastity is the subject of the whole nations discussion and debate. It's just awful. I mean... why should people even talk abut how "pure" sita is??? It's demeaning.

But

I realised today it was still happening.
Like there's this sweet actress. Udaya Soundari. She was doing well on media Corp.  Then there was a a scandal . A sex tape was released online with allegations that it was her in the videos. She denied it outright.
No verdict passed.  But she's been ostracised fro media ever since!  The mere hint of a woman crossing moral lines of the time and she is banished.  Judgement passed. No proof needed. The rumour is enough.  So sad. So incredibly unfair and sad. And so I grow to appreciate the ramayana more every day.  I don't agree with what happened. I pass my own judgement that what happened was wrong. But I get it more today. 

So the show made a big deal about people questioning rama s actions.
That was good. 
But it missed a point. That awful dobhi asks people '"would you accept your wife after she spends the night in another man's house?" And no one can answer him. They all look down. That's apparently an answer.

They should have had someone else ask him back.  Bit what if your wife was kidnapped.  Would you not get her back? And protect her and apologise to her! If your son or daughter or mother were kidnapped would you not want to get them back?  There is a huge difference between walking out on your own and being taken against your will.

Secondly I think rama was only thinking of himself . In that. He saw sita as just a reflection of himself. And he wanted her to stay for his sake so he saw it as a huge sacrifice to give her up.  All in relation to him. He forgot totally about her as a person on her own right.  That he should not have blamed or hurt an innocent woman.

And he forgot about the poor Dhobi s wife! He in effect punished her for not telling her husband where she was going.  She went to care for her ailing mother and he threw her out. Well he doesn't deserve her the idiot but that should be her choice to make not the court's. 

Ah well.