He called me

Out of nowhere.
And shared he's been taking deepa to speech therapy class
He was so animated until he suddenly realised I may share all this with aatha and then he clamped up
From his view everything my parents have done is wrong wrong wrong
That one trip to the doc where they checked her for autism really is something he can't get over.
At least he is taking her for treatment now. And when he explains to me I get it why unexpected visits could throw her off and that a relaxing routine is critical for her. But they didn't know that . And he's determined to think ill of them. He doesn't believe that they have good intentions. He actually thinks they are sarcastic to a child! Their grandchild. He's willing himself to believe the worst of them. It is possible his wife had turned him against them one never knows.
He believes she feels like crap after they talk to her! And she blossoms when saro speaks to her!!! Sounds to me he's projecting his feelings onto her. Likely he can't stand the sight of them talking to her and it pains him.
Still. All this out of love for his daughter. And he is taking her to speech therapy and acting upon it. All that is good. If only he could have trusted them to tell them. They would have stopped turning up. He doesn't feel he can trust them.

Perhaps I too would be very very angry and upset had i found out they had taken any of my kids for an autistic test. Or any test.

Still..sigh. They are both hurting. Smarting. And this will take time. But its not an unhealable rift I think. Perhaps things won't ever go back to "normal". But hopefully they do go back to being able to see each other and talk about deepa.  

My parents still love him.

So sad. Praying to  god all is well.