I think it's unnatural and that's why it's so difficult.
How can two different people hope to come together to live together for 40 plus years?
That's a long time.
The lions have a model that is more akin to what's natural.
Male lion impregnated female and moves off.
Female lions care for young for a while till they can take care of themselves and then move off.
We. Get married. Bring up young together for 20 over years. 25 years for each kid on average and even more after that.
People get bored. And need new interests.
How to stay together?
So I must actively seek out other forms of engagement. I cannot be so dependent on husband and kids for meaning in my life.
All are temporary.
After 12 years of marriage he and I just partners in child rearing now.
And that's fine.
We are not extensions of each other.
And kids are here temporarily.
They will move on.
We have a responsibility to support them nurture them but we should not expect anything from then
Dharma duty - these matter more than anything else.
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